Grieving mother receives messages from dead son from beyond the grave

15:53 20 November 2012

Tony Woodmansee (centre)

Tony Woodmansee (centre)


Sally Woodmansee says her son communicates from the afterlife

When Sally Woodmansee’s son was tragically killed in a car crash two years ago she, like anyone to suffer bereavement, thought it was the last she would ever see or hear from her beloved boy.

But in what is thought to be an extraordinary spiritual phenomenon, the 52-year-old claims her dead son Tony is communicating with her from beyond the grave.

Mum-of-five Mrs Woodmansee, from Herne Bay, says Tony, who was just 20 when he died, “speaks” to her through automatic spiritual writing.

Every morning at 6am, she sits in a darkened room with a notepad and pen. Her arm starts to glide, writing page after page of thoughtful script.

But it’s not her own words. According to the hairdresser, it’s her son, Tony. He guides her hand to send her messages from the afterlife, including what heaven is like.

“I’d never been spiritual before and I can understand if people are sceptical. It’s so surreal,” she said.

“There was no explanation for it when it started happening. My arm made a creaking, grinding noise and I thought it was a trapped nerve.

“I’d look down and my arm would be hovering. But the overwhelming sense of calm I felt when it happened – all the knots of turmoil disappeared – I just couldn’t explain it.”

It started happening when she arrived back from hospital after Tony passed away.

The former Herne Bay High pupil suffered serious head injuries in a car crash on the A291 Canterbury Road on October 28, 2010, in which he was a passenger.

According to the family, unusual things started to happen almost immediately after his death.

At his funeral, the congregation was left baffled by strange events.

“The CD kept skipping back to just two of the songs,” said Mrs Woodmansee.

“Then the vicar kept stopping through her readings – it would take her minutes to start up again.

“I looked over at my eldest son Oliver and he was sniggering, but I thought it was nerves. He said he’d tell me why after. I was getting upset; this was my son’s funeral.

“Oliver later told me that as he’d walked into the funeral he’d said to Tony that if he was there and ok, to send a message by messing with the music or making the vicar forget her words.

“It was him sending a message, but it took me a while to accept it was really happening.”

It wasn’t until two of Tony’s friends went to see a medium that Mrs Woodmansee was convinced her dead son was trying to get in touch with her.

“Two girls had booked to see a medium before Tony passed and it happened to fall on the day of funeral,” she said.

“The medium said a young man called Tony who had died in a car crash had come through and had done something strange – he had sprinkled Oxo cubes on her head. I knew straight away it was him.

“Tony had Oxo cubes in everything. The first time I went shopping after he passed I was unpacking food and I heard something fall off the shelf. It was a box of Oxo cubes. I thought nothing of it, but then the metal utensils hanging by the cooker started to swing and bang together.”

When things started to happen every day, Mrs Woodmansee decided to visit the medium herself, convinced her son was trying to make contact.

“When I got there she said she was glad I had come; she said Tony had been hassling her all the time.

“There were things she said about him she just couldn’t have known. I couldn’t explain it.

“I decided to tell her about my arm, which is when she told me about automatic spiritual writing.

“She said Tony wanted me to ask him a question. I needed to sit in a darkened room with a notepad and pen.”

So the next morning that’s what Mrs Woodmansee did.

“It took about seven or eight minutes before anything happened, but then my arm started to move. It felt like I was making huge movements and afterwards I felt drained.”

When she looked at the pad, a faint outline of the word Tony had been written.

Amazed, she did the same thing every morning and now has 12 A4 notebooks packed with profound statements from her son as well as loving messages.

Mrs Woodmansee says she doesn’t know what has been written until she reads it afterwards.

Amazingly, she also says she can often sit for an hour with her arm held up and writing – something most people would struggle with.

“It’s so hard to explain, but Tony explains it all for me. I was told by a medium that he had just been “on loan” to me and this was his job, this was what was meant to happen.

“It made sense as I’d always had this overwhelming feeling something was going to happen to him when he was alive.”

Mrs Woodmansee has co-written an ebook called Talking to Tony with former national journalist Laurie Stone, from Blean, telling her incredible story.

In just one week, more than 1,000 copies have been sold.

“I would never want to upset anyone and I feared this, but I have been overwhelmed at the support I have had from people,” she said.

“It gives some understanding as to what happens.

“For me, I know my fate, I know I will see Tony again and that gives me strength.

“Nothing makes the pain of losing a child any easier, but this provides some understanding of where he is.

“He tells me he has the best of both worlds.”

Talking to Tony available from Amazon for the Kindle and other devices using the

Kindle App. Price £5.14.

Messages Sally Woodmansee says come from Tony:

Tony on Love Thy Neighbour: “Positivity and hope create strength. People are getting weak by their own doing. It really is time for change. It is this simple.

“Lose the hate and find the love. Feelings don’t disappear as if by magic - if there were issues and troubles with anyone before, they mellow and become far less important. We must realise that a lot of troubles and worries aren’t half as serious or necessary as we make them out to be. It is magnified by negativity.

“It becomes far easier to resolve differences once you are here. There aren’t added pressures here, so we can see everything more clearly.

“We encourage everyone to forgive and accept that we are not perfect in our own lives. So it is good to accept an apology when it is genuinely meant. It is easy to see a situation for what it really is and to understand more about why we behave the way we do sometimes. It is where freedom of choice and useful guidance come in to play.”

Tony on Christmas: “Christmas is not like it is on earth, where people tend to buy presents they can’t afford and then stress about the debt they are in for months after. “We celebrate in a much more traditional and meaningful way. We all get together and spend time with family and friends. It is merry in the true sense. And yes, we have presents. It will always be something meaningful and useful. Sounds boring to most people but it is not. Everything is heartfelt. Sounds like heaven, doesn’t it? It is.”


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